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1. He is devoted to the Lord.
He views things from the Lord’s perspective and for His purpose. He puts the Lord first with you following as a close second. He is devoted to his Christian walk and is generous with his time, talents and other gifts.

2. He is faithful to his obligations.
This shows what level he will probably be committed to your relationship. He doesn't cop out of commitments he has made to others.

3. He is willing to let go of something.
For example, he will forgo an activity if a conflict of schedules comes about and compromises to work through a situation. Of course, if you are a great Christian girlfriend, you'll practically have an argument with him over who sacrifices because you will also be willing to sacrifice your plans if a conflict of schedules enters the pictures.

4. He is considerate of other people in addition to you.
He is protective of small children and has an affection for puppies (technically, it could be cats or rabbits or other small animals, but you get the idea). He lets his mother kiss him on the cheek without complaining.

5. He is loyal to his family/friends and to you.
He keeps his word and remembers birthdays, anniversaries and to get gifts at Christmas. He takes your side, even if you happen to be wrong.

6. He respects his parents, elders and you.
He doesn't roll his eyes when his grandfather has something to say. He does not interrupt or talk over you.

7. He is involved in ministries, reaching the unsaved and helping others in the body of Christ. He participates in Bible classes. The church is an important part of his life and not just a building where he shows up on Sunday morning.

8. He prays and recognizes its power.
He spends personal time with the Lord in prayer. He prays with you. Prayer is his first thought when a crisis happens--not something he has to be talked into.

9. He sees the advantages of working together as a couple.
Yet allows for plenty of grace in those times there needs to be space to reflect.

10. He honors God by taking care of his body.
His diet does not leave him a ticking-time-bomb of heart-attack potential and he makes an effort to exercise. Not only is this something that will keep physical attraction alive over the years, but should you marry and have children, he will be less likely to leave them fatherless because of an untimely death.

Bottom line: He is loving, complimenting, sincere, committed, caring, respectable, honest, trustworthy (yes, they go together). Because of our humanness, none of us is perfect. However those qualities that you see exhibited in his life now, reveal the ways he handles circumstances that will arise at a later date or if you should both decide that your relationship is serious and leads to marriage. You should compliment each other, as you learn of the other's strengths and weaknesses.

For further guidance see: I Corinthians 13; Ephesians 5:22-33; 1 Timothy 3.

Also see The Top Ten Traits of a Great Christian Girlfriend.

by Lee Wilson
© 2008 Lee Wilson. All rights reserved. May not be used without permission. Permission granted to use approximately one paragraph on a blog, forum or website and then a link to this page for full content.

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yadah · Posted: Mon Jan 01, 2007 2:57 pm Post subject:

How come most of the traits listed for being a good girlfriend are about how a woman relates to the man she's with, but most of the traits listed for being a good boyfriend are about how a man relates to everyone else? Does a good Christian boyfriend even know you're there? Or have women been conditioned to not expect to be a primary part of our own relationships?

Harlequin · Posted: Mon Jan 01, 2007 4:20 pm Post subject:

I agree that this is a good example of a Christian man, an example we all should strive for, but if he needs to have a woman in his life, he does need also to have the ability to make her a part of his life. Second only to God, she should be the most important part of his life.

grateful

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I know I desire and need safe, in-your-face, hardball, personal co-accountability with other like-minded Christian men. I am sure that because I don't have that that I am far less a good servant of my King than if I did have it.

But, for what I do have, I am ever-so...

starlight013 · Posted: Wed Jan 03, 2007 2:50 pm Post subject:

Oh here's my list.

1. He listens to you when you talk.
Instead of asking how was your day and not really meaning it..he actually cares and listens.

2. When you want to go shopping he doesn't go Oh do I have to?
Instead of running off to Sears or Home Depot, he actually goes with you and gives you an honest opinion about your clothes when you ask if your butt looks fat or if you look fat in your clothes. Even if we don't want to hear wow that makes you look horrible..at least we know the honest answer and won't wear that outfit out in public with other people thinking the same thing.

3. He actually lets you watch something other than the History channel.
Sure all guys like the history channel..but there's a limit. If I want to watch Lost he doesn't sit there and go.."Oh but..the whatever airplane is on and I want to watch it!!!" Instead he realizes that hey...I've watched enough of the history channel that history has repeated itself numerous times..I can give it up for an hour or two.

4. When he knows we've had a rough day..he either cooks something for us..or takes us out.
Now I'm not saying be a Gordon Ramesy..but hey..women don't have to do it all! If you know we're running late..it doesn't take that much to make a salad and have it sitting there for us! Or even call up and say hey I'll meet you at the Olive Garden! And even if what you cook isn't great..oh well! You tried!!!

5. He'll help with household chores.
Instead of creating the mess and leaving it..he creates and then realizes opps..that's my mess I had best clean it up. He actually takes his dirty dishes to the sink, puts his clothes in the laundry basket (and maybe even helps with the laundry and dishes) and maybe when it comes time to clean..helps out.

6. When asked to go to church he doesn't pull the Homer Simpson of sneaking in his Ipod to listen to sports, or staying at home.
Yep you got it. No more AMENS! when the Steelers score a touch down whether it be at home or in the pew. You go to church and you go willingly cause you love the Lord.

7. He doesn't complain about your parents.
Ok so everyone has inlaws..woohoo..big whoop. Yeah some of them are annoying..but hey they're my parents. You married me so obviously they did something right. So when my mom calls don't roll your eyes at me and go Lord help me. I put up with your mom, you put up with mine. Just grin and bear it.

8. Girls nights are ok.
He has guy nights, so girl nights are ok as well. And he doesn't pull the but who's going to feed me routine. Again..make a salad.

9. He realizes that during that special time of month that sometimes it's best to just leave us alone and give us the chocolate.
Yep..he knows we get emotional. He knows we can go from happy to really mad in under a second. So he realizes that sometimes it's best to go on those guy nights and leave us alone with that chocolate ben and jerry's ice cream he bought!

10. He knows we are not a maid/butler.
He knows that during the game..that asking us to get him a beer is not a wise move. He realizes that he can get up and go the fridge on his own without having any problems. Sure it may have to wait until the commerical, but it's better than having the can thrown at you.

Tahdah there's mine. And do realize that it was meant to be funny..even though I'm sure most girls think along the same lines.

shamac · Posted: Fri Jan 05, 2007 3:04 am Post subject: some more to look for a in man

He should have a good knowledge of the Word of God .
He should know how to manage finances well.
He should absolutely love and cherish his wife

Ivan · Posted: Mon Jan 08, 2007 11:56 am Post subject:

Wow Starlight, that list is fine and all, but I think it should be a two-way street. Cause I know I've done a lot of what you mentioned, but never received the same in return.
I mean, I would have liked it if my ex would have gone with me to Home Depot, or Sears. Instead of me ALWAYS going shopping with her.
What about if the guy has a rough week, is he entitled to receive something special, like maybe being taken out to the race track or something, and NOT have to pay for it himself?
I don't mean to be rude or anything, I just want to know from other female perspectives, am I just wrong in my way of thinking? Sorry if I made anyone upset, that's not my intention.

Reenie · Posted: Tue Jan 16, 2007 8:35 pm Post subject: Starlight's Top Ten

Starlight, I'm with you girl! I thought your top 10 for a great Christian Boyfriend was High-larious! But true, we have to be accountable, too. Nagging will only go so far before the guys just tune us out. Sometimes you can find a lot of truth in humor, and your list gave me a few good chuckles! Guys need to learn that the days of Harriet Nelson/Mary Tyler Moore are over! It's time to share the load!

cjean · Posted: Mon Jan 22, 2007 9:49 pm Post subject: Top Ten

Starlight...what can I add? I laughed so hard my dog started barking

Ivan....don't take me to Home Depot if you're not ready for the Honey Do list!

Truth be told...we all have a list, don't we?

leesw2 · Posted: Sat Feb 03, 2007 7:47 pm Post subject:

Ivan, good point.

No1spank

Only if he's henpecked, a woman with an out of control mouth can cause all manner of problems!
Good men and women will keep each other in line when needed.


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