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Top 10 Traits of a Great Christian Boyfriend

A joint effort by the member known as Lpie and the Admin

1. He is devoted to the Lord.
He views things from the Lordís perspective and for His purpose. He puts the Lord first with you following as a close second. He is devoted to his Christian walk and is generous with his time, talents and other gifts.

2. He is faithful to his obligations.
This shows what level he will probably be committed to your relationship. He doesn't cop out of commitments he has made to others.

3. He is willing to let go of something.
For example, he will forgo an activity if a conflict of schedules comes about and compromises to work through a situation. Of course, if you are a great Christian girlfriend, you'll practically have an argument with him over who sacrifices because you will also be willing to sacrifice your plans if a conflict of schedules enters the pictures.

4. He is considerate of other people in addition to you.
He is protective of small children and has an affection for puppies (technically, it could be cats or rabbits or other small animals, but you get the idea). He lets his mother kiss him on the cheek without complaining.

5. He is loyal to his family/friends and to you.
He keeps his word and remembers birthdays, anniversaries and to get gifts at Christmas. He takes your side, even if you happen to be wrong.

6. He respects his parents, elders and you.
He doesn't roll his eyes when his grandfather has something to say. He does not interrupt or talk over you.

7. He is involved in ministries, reaching the unsaved and helping others in the body of Christ. He participates in Bible classes. The church is an important part of his life and not just a building where he shows up on Sunday morning.

8. He prays and recognizes its power.
He spends personal time with the Lord in prayer. He prays with you. Prayer is his first thought when a crisis happens--not something he has to be talked into.

9. He sees the advantages of working together as a couple.
Yet allows for plenty of grace in those times there needs to be space to reflect.

10. He honors God by taking care of his body.
His diet does not leave him a ticking-time-bomb of heart-attack potential and he makes an effort to exercise. Not only is this something that will keep physical attraction alive over the years, but should you marry and have children, he will be less likely to leave them fatherless because of an untimely death.

Bottom line: He is loving, complimenting, sincere, committed, caring, respectable, honest, trustworthy (yes, they go together). Because of our humanness, none of us is perfect. However those qualities that you see exhibited in his life now, reveal the ways he handles circumstances that will arise at a later date or if you should both decide that your relationship is serious and leads to marriage. You should compliment each other, as you learn of the other's strengths and weaknesses.

For further guidance see: I Corinthians 13; Ephesians 5:22-33; 1 Timothy 3.

Also see The Top Ten Traits of a Great Christian Girlfriend.



by Lee Wilson (Follow Lee on Facebook)
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yadah



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 Posted: Mon Jan 01, 2007 2:57 pm  Post subject:

How come most of the traits listed for being a good girlfriend are about how a woman relates to the man she's with, but most of the traits listed for being a good boyfriend are about how a man relates to everyone else? Does a good Christian boyfriend even know you're there? Or have women been conditioned to not expect to be a primary part of our own relationships?
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Harlequin



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 Posted: Mon Jan 01, 2007 4:20 pm  Post subject:

I agree that this is a good example of a Christian man, an example we all should strive for, but if he needs to have a woman in his life, he does need also to have the ability to make her a part of his life. Second only to God, she should be the most important part of his life.
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starlight013
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 Posted: Wed Jan 03, 2007 2:50 pm  Post subject:

Oh here's my list.

1. He listens to you when you talk.
Instead of asking how was your day and not really meaning it..he actually cares and listens.

2. When you want to go shopping he doesn't go Oh do I have to?
Instead of running off to Sears or Home Depot, he actually goes with you and gives you an honest opinion about your clothes when you ask if your butt looks fat or if you look fat in your clothes. Even if we don't want to hear wow that makes you look horrible..at least we know the honest answer and won't wear that outfit out in public with other people thinking the same thing.

3. He actually lets you watch something other than the History channel.
Sure all guys like the history channel..but there's a limit. If I want to watch Lost he doesn't sit there and go.."Oh but..the whatever airplane is on and I want to watch it!!!" Instead he realizes that hey...I've watched enough of the history channel that history has repeated itself numerous times..I can give it up for an hour or two.

4. When he knows we've had a rough day..he either cooks something for us..or takes us out.
Now I'm not saying be a Gordon Ramesy..but hey..women don't have to do it all! If you know we're running late..it doesn't take that much to make a salad and have it sitting there for us! Or even call up and say hey I'll meet you at the Olive Garden! And even if what you cook isn't great..oh well! You tried!!!

5. He'll help with household chores.
Instead of creating the mess and leaving it..he creates and then realizes opps..that's my mess I had best clean it up. He actually takes his dirty dishes to the sink, puts his clothes in the laundry basket (and maybe even helps with the laundry and dishes) and maybe when it comes time to clean..helps out.

6. When asked to go to church he doesn't pull the Homer Simpson of sneaking in his Ipod to listen to sports, or staying at home.
Yep you got it. No more AMENS! when the Steelers score a touch down whether it be at home or in the pew. You go to church and you go willingly cause you love the Lord.

7. He doesn't complain about your parents.
Ok so everyone has inlaws..woohoo..big whoop. Yeah some of them are annoying..but hey they're my parents. You married me so obviously they did something right. So when my mom calls don't roll your eyes at me and go Lord help me. I put up with your mom, you put up with mine. Just grin and bear it.

8. Girls nights are ok.
He has guy nights, so girl nights are ok as well. And he doesn't pull the but who's going to feed me routine. Again..make a salad.

9. He realizes that during that special time of month that sometimes it's best to just leave us alone and give us the chocolate.
Yep..he knows we get emotional. He knows we can go from happy to really mad in under a second. So he realizes that sometimes it's best to go on those guy nights and leave us alone with that chocolate ben and jerry's ice cream he bought!

10. He knows we are not a maid/butler.
He knows that during the game..that asking us to get him a beer is not a wise move. He realizes that he can get up and go the fridge on his own without having any problems. Sure it may have to wait until the commerical, but it's better than having the can thrown at you.

Tahdah there's mine. And do realize that it was meant to be funny..even though I'm sure most girls think along the same lines.
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shamac



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 Posted: Fri Jan 05, 2007 3:04 am  Post subject: some more to look for a in man

He should have a good knowledge of the Word of God .
He should know how to manage finances well.
He should absolutely love and cherish his wife
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Ivan



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 Posted: Mon Jan 08, 2007 11:56 am  Post subject:

Wow Starlight, that list is fine and all, but I think it should be a two-way street. Cause I know I've done a lot of what you mentioned, but never received the same in return.
I mean, I would have liked it if my ex would have gone with me to Home Depot, or Sears. Instead of me ALWAYS going shopping with her.
What about if the guy has a rough week, is he entitled to receive something special, like maybe being taken out to the race track or something, and NOT have to pay for it himself?
I don't mean to be rude or anything, I just want to know from other female perspectives, am I just wrong in my way of thinking? Sorry if I made anyone upset, that's not my intention.
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Reenie



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 Posted: Tue Jan 16, 2007 8:35 pm  Post subject: Starlight's Top Ten

Starlight, I'm with you girl! I thought your top 10 for a great Christian Boyfriend was High-larious! But true, we have to be accountable, too. Nagging will only go so far before the guys just tune us out. Sometimes you can find a lot of truth in humor, and your list gave me a few good chuckles! Guys need to learn that the days of Harriet Nelson/Mary Tyler Moore are over! It's time to share the load!
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leesw2
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 Posted: Sat Feb 03, 2007 7:47 pm  Post subject:

Ivan, good point.
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No1spank



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 Posted: Thu Jul 05, 2007 3:45 pm  Post subject: No5 He takes your side even if you happen to be wrong.

Only if he's henpecked, a woman with an out of control mouth can cause all manner of problems!
Good men and women will keep each other in line when needed.
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jesusguitargurl



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 Posted: Fri Oct 12, 2007 1:16 pm  Post subject: I'm a girl and I like guy stuff...

1. I have no problems bringing the guy a beer or soda during the game. I don't like football on TV all that much, but I would probably sit and hang out maybe to give it a try. If he treats me good, I have no problems pampering him like a spoiled puppy. It goes a long ways. Likewise, when the salmon are running, he had better have a boat and I had better be on it, because I might find somebody else's boat and go anyways!

2. About shopping... your girlfriends are to take clothes shopping. What guy in his right mind is going to say "ya, that makes your butt look big". A guy that is monumentally stupid, or has not been trained by his mother, that's who! Besides, the only guys I know that have ANY fashion or color sense are um... well they're not heterosexual. Or they have been dressed by a woman. Point in case. Example: I don't have a guy, but when I go shopping with my Dad, the clothes and styles he would pick out for me make me resemble... my Mom. When I WAS married, the man picked out things that made me look like... vamp... tramp... trashy... highly sexual... Not necessarily attractive.

3. Home Depot??? Bring it on, and I want to buy some power tools! Whatsamatter with Home Depot??? They have girl stuff there, too. You could have a flat out party in that place, picking out stuff to do to your house, and there is a garden section, and the whole works... And I LOVE to walk through the lumber section and just smell the smell of the wood.


4. I agree about that time of the month. Just leave us alone. Take the kids with you. PLEASE. Bring chocolate and a chick flick.

5. Guy time... had better be with guys from the church, ONLY guys. but..... maybe sometime I can come do some of that "guy" stuff too??? I think I'm either a throwback of nature, or the women in my church are just girly girls or something. I like camping. I like fishing. I like hiking. I like mud biking, dirt biking, four byin'.... shooting guns, hunting... And most of all, I love driving a pickup truck. Go figure.
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retskcal



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 Posted: Tue Oct 16, 2007 10:16 am  Post subject: BOTH SIDES!!!

1.He listens to you when you talk.
Instead of asking how was your day and not really meaning it he actually cares and listens.

As she must do the same!!! Hey I want my woman to listen to me as well, it goes both ways!

2. When you want to go shopping he doesn't go Oh do I have to? Instead of running off to Sears or Home Depot, he actually goes with you and gives you an honest opinion about your clothes when you ask if your butt looks fat or if you look fat in your clothes. Even if we don't want to hear wow that makes you look horrible at least we know the honest answer and won't wear that outfit out in public with other people thinking the same thing.

Or maybe women need to quit worrying about looking fat, and be happy with who they are!!! I know I am fat, I deal with it, but then I know u don't have to look skinny to be good looking! If it makes u look fat maybe it's because u are! And so what! If u look fat and I am with u, then I love the way u look! Assuming my opinion matters. Hey I go shopping with my girl when I have one, even if I hate what she is shopping for I do it because she wants me there and I want to spend time with her! But she can go comic book shopping with me when I go to the comic shop, seeing that women are so giving in return. Hehe, no she donít have too, but it would be nice. I love sharing my passions with my woman! And I donít shop at Sears, but if she wanted too, then sure, lol.

3. He actually lets you watch something other than the History channel.
Sure all guys like the history channel but there's a limit. If I want to watch Lost he doesn't sit there and go "Oh but the whatever airplane is on and I want to watch it!!!" Instead he realizes that hey...I've watched enough of the history channel that history has repeated itself numerous times I can give it up for an hour or two.

Same goes for her, though that is why u have two tv's! Though I do love the Hist channel, I love the sci-fi, cartoon network, national geographic, and I love certain tv shows that I cannot miss! And I would still let her watch what she wants too, hence the two tvs. And hereís the thing, I can tape my shows and watch hers with her, or vise-versa, not everything has to be in black and white!

4. When he knows we've had a rough day he either cooks something for us or takes us out.
Now I'm not saying be a Gordon Ramsey but hey women don't have to do it all! If you know we're running late it doesn't take that much to make a salad and have it sitting there for us! Or even call up and say hey I'll meet you at the Olive Garden! And even if what you cook isn't great oh well! You tried!!!

I agree a good partnership slash romance is all about being there for each other!!

5. He'll help with household chores.
Instead of creating the mess and leaving it he creates and then realizes opps that's my mess I had best clean it up. He actually takes his dirty dishes to the sink, puts his clothes in the laundry basket (and maybe even helps with the laundry and dishes) and maybe when it comes time to clean helps out.

Touchť!!! And same with the woman, not all women follow the old school definition!!!

6. When asked to go to church he doesn't pull the Homer Simpson of sneaking in his Ipod to listen to sports, or staying at home.
Yep you got it. No more AMENS! when the Steelers score a touch down whether it be at home or in the pew. You go to church and you go willingly cause you love the Lord.

That is a no brainier. At least to me.

7. He doesn't complain about your parents.
Ok so everyone has in-laws woohoo big whoop. Yeah some of them are annoying but hey they're my parents. You married me so obviously they did something right. So when my mom calls don't roll your eyes at me and go Lord help me. I put up with your mom, you put up with mine. Just grin and bear it.

Same goes for the woman! Respect mine, at least my mother, she is one of the greatest people alive! And the reason that I am so caring, loving, supportive, and all those other traits u women love in a guy! She also is a fair person, hence why I am so fair, and expect fairness in return!

8. Girls nights are ok.
He has guy nights, so girl nights are ok as well. And he doesn't pull the but who's going to feed me routine. Again make a salad.

And I can cook for myself, I donít need a woman to do everything for me, however, Same goes the other way around, though I have no prob with spending most my time with my woman, I want her to be able to enjoy herself! Within reason, remember u are not single anymore, so no strip clubs!!! After all when I hang with friends on the rare occasions, I don't do anything that would hurt my woman!

9. He realizes that during that special time of month that sometimes it's best to just leave us alone and give us the chocolate.
Yep he knows we get emotional. He knows we can go from happy to really mad in under a second. So he realizes that sometimes it's best to go on those guy nights and leave us alone with that chocolate Ben and jerry's ice cream he bought!

If u love ur man, don't be mean and blame it on that time! Think about it, u wouldn't let us get away with it! Though if he loves u, then he will support u and be there for u, but don't push him away!! Besides treat me mean enough, and I might just buy the ice cream for myself. Hahahahahahahaha, I can be mean too, though unlike some I don't want to be mean. Hows bout I buy one for u and one for me, I buy some of ur fav chocolate, rent ur fav chic flick or what ever movie that u wanna see, and eat watch tv togher???? And if u are up it assuming it don't hurt u, we can even cuddle!!! Wow, that was hard wasn't it??? Now who is being the sensitive one??? I would rather spend time with u then run away excuse me!


10. He knows we are not a maid/butler.
He knows that during the game that asking us to get him a beer is not a wise move. He realizes that he can get up and go the fridge on his own without having any problems. Sure it may have to wait until the commercial, but it's better than having the can thrown at you.

So u don't want to be considerate? What if he were to return the favor? Relationships are about taking care of each other, not u have ur life and I have mine, deal!!! It is a symbiotic relationship, u want a guy to be there for u, u have to do the same!

11. He is devoted to the Lord. He views things from the Lordís perspective and for His purpose. He puts the Lord first with you following as a close second. He is devoted to his Christian walk and is generous with his time, talents and other gifts. And puts his woman before himself!!!

12. He is faithful to his obligations, as well as to her. This shows what level he will probably be committed to your relationship. He doesn't cop out of commitments he has made to others.

13. He is willing to let go of something. For example, he will forgo an activity if a conflict of schedules comes about and compromises to work through a situation. Of course, if you are a great Christian girlfriend, you'll practically have an argument with him over who sacrifices because you will also be willing to sacrifice your plans if a conflict of schedules enters the pictures.

14. He is considerate of other people in addition to you. He is protective of those he loves, and is willing to die for another!

15. He is loyal to his family/friends and to you. He keeps his word and remembers birthdays, anniversaries and to get gifts at Christmas. He takes your side, even if you happen to be wrong. As she has to be with him as well!!!

16. He respects his parents, elders and you. He doesn't roll his eyes when his grandfather has something to say. He does not interrupt or talk over you. Same in return.

17. He is not arrogant, he always tries to improve who he is!

18. He prays and recognizes its power. He spends personal time with the Lord in prayer. He prays with you. Prayer is his first thought when a crisis happens--not something he has to be talked into.

19. He sees the advantages of working together as a couple, and loves to spend time with her, as she does with him! Yet allows for plenty of grace in those times there needs to be space to reflect.

Bottom line: He is loving, complimenting, sincere, committed, caring, respectable, honest, trustworthy (yes, they go together). As so should be her. Because of our humanness, none of us is perfect. However those qualities that you see exhibited in his life now, reveal the ways he handles circumstances that will arise at a later date or if you should both decide that your relationship is serious and leads to marriage. You should compliment each other, as you learn of the other's strengths and weaknesses. Remember, a serious relationship is a symbiotic relationship, u are becoming one, and by marriage u are one. I agree that the guy should be there for his girlfriend/wife, but vise-versa as well!!! If u love that person, then u will be there for them no matter what!!! U don't push them away then wonder why are they so mad or not caring, when they care more then u can ever imagine! A woman who can meet me on my playing field has my respect and adoration! And I would do almost anything for her!!! But that is almost impossible. Women deserve respect and to have their needs meant, as do us guys.
Just remember not all of us are the same, I have no gender role, I am who I am, yes I am a guy, but I am very sensitive I want equal treatment, and I want to be loved, and adored!
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